TOPIC:-HANDLING
SPECIAL MEMBERS OF THE FAMILY
Text:-Mathew 25:34-40, Hebrews 10:24, Romans 12:13-16, James
1:27
1.
The widow and widowers Exodus 22:22-24, Deut
24:17, Isaiah 1:17, Psalms 146:9, Psalms 68:5, 1 Timothy 5:3-16.
2.
The orphans Psalms 10:14, Exodus 22:22-24, Deut
10:18, Psalms 82:3, James 1:27.
3.
The physically challenged. 2 Samuel 4: 4, 2
Samuel 9:1-10
4.
The strangers. Psalms 146:9, Hebrews 13:2
5.
The separated and the divorced. 1 Corinthians
7:10-11, Mark 10:1-12, 1 Corinthians 7:8-9, 39-40.
6.
Poor :-James 2:1-8
7.
Servants Ephesians 6:5-9.
8.
Blind Lev 19:14.
9.
Deaf Lev 19:14.
10.
In-laws. Some people believe in-laws are bad
especially because of the experience they have passed through. A biblical
example of bad in-law was Laban. Genesis
chapters 29-31. To avoid in-laws is to marry somebody without living
relatives which is impossible. The Bible provides us with examples of good
in-laws. A. Jethro Exodus 2:15-22, 4:18, 18:1-27. Jethro seems to have treated
Moses as an adopted son. Numbers 10:29-32. B. Ruth was a good daughter in-law
and treated her mother in-law very well. Ruth 1:16-17. You must develop a
positive attitude towards your in-laws by acknowledging that your spouse loves
his or her parents. Learn to love these people that are so important to the one
you love. A good rule for the two of you to follow is never criticized your
mate’s family. Remember that your in-laws are now your parents. Recognize that
what you love about your spouse, you owe to your in-laws. You need to follow
the golden rule of doing to your in-laws as you will want your in-laws to do
unto you. Mathew 7:12.
11.
You must have your independence from in-laws
i.
Establish your home independent of your parents
because you are a man before you marry. Mathew 19:5
ii.
Your independence means
a.
You are financially independent. That does not
mean the parents cannot help them but they should not depend on them.
b.
Make your own decisions. You can accept or
reject any outside advice.
c.
Emotional independence. You should depend on God
and one another and not your parents again.
d.
Physical independence. You should feel free to
spend your time with your parents or not to spend time with them, as the
circumstances dictates.
e.
As a young wife you don’t need to run home
crying like a little baby because of challenges between you and your spouse or
children.
f.
Not to compare your home with that of your
parents positively or negatively.
g.
As a wife, you should not unfavorably compare
your husband with your father.
h.
As a husband you will not allow your husband to
dominate you or your wife again.
i.
You will not criticize because your wife doesn’t
cook like your mother. Your mother’s role is one of the past and you need to
start your own.
j.
You will determine for yourself which new
tradition and values you will want to establish in your home.
k.
You must love your spouse more than your parents
if the family will work.
l.
If your parents criticized your spouse, you will
not join them in the act except if they are praising the spouse.
iii.
TREAT both sets of parents’ right by loving them
because God asked us to love our enemies. Mathew 5:44. Forgive them. Eph 5:32.
Do well to them not returning evil for evil. Romans 12:20-21. Understand their
needs and seeking to fulfill those needs.
iv.
Adult children have the responsibility to care
for their parents. Mathew 15:1-9, 1 Timothy 5:3-8.
CONCLUSION: -
There is no how you cannot meet with these kinds of special members of the
family. Yours is to help them to the best of your ability not at the detriment
of your own immediate family members.
By Pastor S.N Maichibi
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